#FreeMixing #WorldlyLife #BreadEarners
I have been questioned by many about my actions and thoughts on free mixing and the success of this worldly life.
Let me be clear that whatever I say applies to me based on what I feel is right for me and to all the believing men and women. That is why I chose what I have chosen. You might think alike or you might disagree, that’s entirely your choice.
I don’t make it as a binding on anyone to do the same coz they must decide for themselves based on what situation they are in. Coz at the end of the day, you will be answerable for yours and I will be for mine. But what I place here will be from the Haq, in Sha Allah.
In Islam, men are the one who should work to earn money. So they need to do different jobs and professions in order to take care of their family. This duty is not on women. A women can work for herself but she is not the one who has been made responsible by Allah to earn but instead she has been given the responsibility to care of the family in matters that are within the household.
Even though this is the natural way, yet we see women donning the role of men in today’s modern world. They are more often transgressing the limits and are seen mixing with men in the workplace. They go out fully adorned devoid of the hijab, which must be actually donned to cover their beauty.
In doing so, they end up doing things that Allah has forbidden. A hijab is not only that which is used to cover the physical aspect but also has to cover the emotional side. A women is not supposed to soften her voice when interacting with a non mahram. And so, she isn’t supposed to joke around and laugh with non mahram men. Similarly that rule also binds the men.
We are not supposed to dine or party together with the opposite gender who are non mahrams. All of that has no justification for Muslim men and women who do what Allah has forbidden. You will be questioned about your actions.
Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): “No person earns any (sin) except against himself (only), and no bearer of burdens shall bear the burden of another” [Qur’an 6:164].
A Muslim is enjoined to adhere to the limits set by Allah, and not to transgress them just because other people do so. Each one of us must enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil as much as one can. And if you cannot forbid, then it’s better not to participate in such evils.
Hence it’s best for every Muslim to strive to keep his heart free of the effects of desires and temptations, especially the fitnah of women.
Usamah ibn Zayd reported that the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: “I have not left after me any trial that is more harmful to men than women.” Source: Sahih Muslim & Sahih Al- Bukhari.
So we should strive to find work where there is no mixing with women. In case we are unable to find one, and that’s the norm in today’s world, then it’s best to fear Allah as much as one can. We must lower our gaze and avoiding talking to women unnecessarily, or going beyond that to laughing and joking, or being alone with a woman. Coz when you are alone with a woman then the third one is the Satan!
The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: “No man is alone with a woman but the Satan is the third one present.” Source At-Tirmidhi.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “No man should be alone with a woman unless there is a mahram with them.”
Source Al-Bukhaari and Muslim.
With regards to using public transport, for example flying in an airplane, it’s done out of necessity and not to know people or interact with them. It’s just a journey from point A to point B.
And to put things into context, even during the time of the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) men and women used to travel together in a caravan along with their mahrams. So there is no harm in traveling as a part of group as long as there are no free interactions and free mixing. And even if there is, it’s just limited and in the presence of their mahrams.
And to those who accuse me of participating in free mixing due to that. Then let me tell you, your accusation is nothing but only a spite.
I fly rarely and when I do so, I don’t go with the intention of knowing or interacting with them or to dine with them. Whereas in conferences you need to interact with women who happen to be either doctors or MRs who sponsor. And it’s often the norm that they happen to be soft and nice to you based on their agenda. Thus, they drop their guards in order to gain your confidence and friendship.
And so, I generally don’t go to conferences coz that is my choice to stay away from the fitan of free mixing. People wish to go, that is their choice. I exercise my choice based on what’s best for me.
Moreover, I have been quite categorical before as well and even today will tell you that the way I look at life and want to live is entirely different than many others.
And so there are bound to be clashes and hence I refrain taking people as comrades and friends. Coz I have my set rules which I will never leave for some merely worldly benefit and jeopardize my hereafter.
I know I haven’t achieved much in this world and I dont think I can do much to gain a piece of this world and neither am too fussy to gain a piece of it. What is destined, I will get and I will be content with that!
More so, I don’t want to miss out my hereafter like I have missed this world, as per the worldly norms of today. coz hereafter is the only thing what I want to excel in and be successful at. That is the success that actually matters for me and not the so called success of this world.
I don’t know if you will understand me.
But I wanted to make matters clear.
Hopefully the world would one day..in Sha Allah!
May Allah help us do that what pleases Him and guide us to stay away from that what displeases Him.
© Dr. Ahmad bin Ibrahim